Your Friday prompt for Stream of Consciousness Saturday is “starts with pro.” Find a word that starts with “pro” and use it any way you like in your post. Enjoy!
Once this prompt was posted and my brain grabbed the word “promise” ‘out of thin air’, there was no waiting for posting this tomorrow. {I’m going to have to try to wait for Saturday before I look next time. LOL}
My first thought concerning promises was how frequently people assume they can impose expo facto promises on others.
You know the type. Someone tells you a piece of gossip that you didn’t ask for then says, “But don’t tell anyone you heard that from me.”.
What the heck? I can’t and won’t promise because I don’t know what that unsolicited information may do. If someone is in danger. or if someone seems to need help, I’m going to do what my conscience tells me is best. Luckily, some people at least give you a warning by saying that last part first. To that, I usually say I don’t want to know, and until I know, I won’t promise anything.
Then I looked up words of wisdom from The Andy Griffith Show on ‘promises’. (IMHO…That show held wisdom and character like no other.)
I posted the cute (wholesome) excerpt below.
I must tell you that I had mixed feelings about what Andy told Opie at first. His advice seemed to be contradictory by praising loyalty to a parent while telling Opie that promises should always be kept.
We don’t want our kids ever to feel they can’t tell their parents anything even if a promise is made. Certainly, adults realize there are many good reasons to break promises. That’s a really good reason that they shouldn’t be made too frequently or without a lot of thought beforehand.
But as I thought about this clip, I ended up agreeing with Andy’s advice. Here’s why:
Kids that young are not capable of prioritizing things and recognizing nuances. Andy was laying an early foundation of character-building behavior. Everything he said was a fundamental lesson that Opie needed to hear. It wouldn’t be long before further talks could add the exceptions to those fundamental “goods” when Opie would be old enough to grasp them. Building character comes from the laying of a solid foundation. Having character, is what helps a person make virtuous nuanced decisions later on.
At least that’s how I see it.
Happy Saturday Friends!
Tag: virtues
Cowboys, Guns and Pride
It wasn’t that long ago that I pretended to be Annie Oakley. Okay, 40 years is long in a lifetime but it feels like yesterday. I’d ride my pony, Socksey, at a gallop while balancing my pop gun. I played alone but never felt lonely.
As part of the first generation of kids with all day TV , the Wild West filled our airways and Cowboys were our heroes. From the modern perspective, these shows were violent and raw. How’s that modern perspective working for y’all?
- teen suicide
- school bullying with apathy from bystanders
- random gun violence
- deadbeat dads
- laziness
- sleep disorders
- eating disorders
To name a few more modern pervasive ailments.
I started looking for videos to attach to this post. My eyes are still filled with tears and my heart with the pride from revisiting my ‘ol pals. Then I found the perfect video. A new movement to instill the virtues that I aspired to from my cowboy heroes. Food for thought people. I’m going to get some old westerns and watch them with my granddaughter.
BTW- I added guns to my title just to make this post “scary” and controversial enough to get you to consider it. 🙂
Big Kid Day… the Proposal
I believe there is a formative age group who needs a boost. Kids ages 5 through 10 are often overlooked until they act out.
I’d like to propose a Big Kid Day. It would coordinate with the very first day of school every September (or late August).
Special stickers could be handed out with a “Hurray for Big Kids!” theme.
- Big kids help out little kids in need.
- Big kids help parents with chores.
- Big kids save older folks steps by being “go-fors”.
- Big Kids have Big Kid Power!
That’s right! Kids from 5 through 10 can become super heroes if we encourage them.
Big Kid Power
Not so long ago
I was just like you.
A little bit nervous
About what to do?
All was so different,
Kids everywhere.
I’d heard about bullies,
I hoped they weren’t there.
Some kids were shouting,
All of them tall,
I kept to myself
And walked down the hall.
One Big Kid stopped
And gave me a grin,
He walked me to class
And helped me get in.
Now on the first day
Of school ever year,
I look for a small one
With eyes full of fear.
I remember my moment,
Now I’m the Big Kid.
And pass on the kindness
That my Big Kid did.
Zabby Eight Update 12/17/10
Zabby called Katherine on the play phone yesterday. Kat was happy to hear from her. Zabby was five strikes into her bowling tournament and she called to tell us how well that she was doing.
“Grandma, Zabby wants to tell you that she has five strikes!”
“Hello Zabby! This is Grandma. I’m so glad that you called to share your success with us. Katherine and I are very excited and we are cheering for you. Remember, even if you don’t get any more strikes, Katherine and I are so proud of you. We know you are trying your best.”
Katherine smiled while closing her eyes and hugging herself. She liked that message.
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Ellen(Katherine’s Mom) just completed a very interesting paper about imaginary friends. It has only been deemed a positive thing for a child to have an imaginary world in recent years. The famed pediatrician, Dr. Brazzleton, thought a child should not be disturbed in their imaginary play. Ellen and I beg to differ. Katherine clearly knows real from imaginary. She practices scenarios about socialization and is thrilled to share them with us. Kids need to know what the adults in their life think about all sorts of issues. What better way to explore than in the imagination?
The sharing of virtues seems easy when we can interject them while playing. I’ve started encouraging imaginary friends with all my day care kids too. They love this idea and embrace the times that I can talk to them without seeming to lecture. It’s been a joy opening my eyes to this childhood ability and to document it for others.
To my granddaughter…
I am unafraid to discuss issues
I am unashamed of my feelings
I am unable to Know all things
I am unwilling to accept apathy
I am certain to offer my friendship
I am pleased to be conscious of Nature
I am incapable of hatred
I will apply myself to each day of my life …therefore, I am proud and happy.