My answer is a big “Yes” and “No”. I seldom say “no” to requests for help. [That’s the “Yes” part.] I enjoy pushing people’s buttons just a little bit. [That’s the “No” part.] People IMHO take themselves too seriously sometimes. I just may poke at their pouting or complaining to distract them from that. When they’re irritated with me, seems their self-pity just disappears. I consider it a public service. 😀
What we do, as long as it’s legal is our own business. But as new laws are constantly being created, (That’s what legislatures seem to feel is their non-stop goal.) there isn’t going to be much that IS legal soon.
Civil disobedience is the only ethical approach to too many laws, I’m afraid.
But there are definitely people in my life who can’t seem to avoid offering their “two cents” on what I do and it’s annoying. What happened to hobbies and volunteer work?
On the other hand, I will defend what I say until it becomes clear that I’m wrong or that the other person simply doesn’t understand what I’m saying. Opinions are all we have many times. If you can articulate the thoughts and experiences you used in creating your opinion, go for it. We might learn something important. But if you have an opinion, express it, and can’t or won’t defend it, you’re just wasting everyone’s’ time and trying their patience. I refer you to the ‘getting a hobby’ suggestion above.
Valentine’s Day is not something I care about. Love is a 24/7 emotion.
It’s little things that someone does for others never anything that you buy. It’s showing your loved ones they can be sure you’re available to help or comfort them any time of any day. It’s going without in order to give support. It’s being present for your family and friends. It’s thinking there’s no greater reward than seeing your loved one happy and safe. It’s forgiveness.
Most of all, it is doing all those things for others because you’ve taken the time to know “Who they are.” not by trying to make them into someone that you wish them to be.
Sadje’s Sunday Poser brought to my mind a beautiful memory along with the usual ‘food for thought’.
Doing generous acts of kindness feels SO satisfying. I’ve often wondered if getting such satisfaction from it wasn’t a little self-serving because I get so much pleasure from it.
I’ve described doing such things as similar to Johnny Appleseed who spread his seeds hoping that some would grow. He didn’t need to stand around waiting for that ‘fruit’ because he had faith that some would take root. It wasn’t in his hands to tend them or even find out which ones grew. He got enough satisfaction from the act.
That’s how I see “Paying it forward”.
A few, maybe 5 now, years ago, a lady was walking through our grocery store wearing a gentle smile and carrying a bouquet of roses. She was about 60 years old. When our eyes met, she walked up to me and asked would I like a rose? (I love flowers but wondered what ‘the catch’ was yet there was something about her that made me graciously accept a rose.) Then she made my whole day and gave me a memory that still warms my heart.
She explained that she was the caretaker for an elderly woman who no longer was mobile enough to come to the grocery herself. The woman said that the elderly lady asked her to purchase a bunch of roses and hand out some ‘sunshine’ for her. (I’m tearing up as I write this.) I never asked for that beautiful soul’s name, but I assure you that her act of kindness has not been forgotten. I’m proud I am able to share it further with all of you.
Sometimes I wonder if that lady has passed on to Heaven. We all know that she would be welcomed home there. I hope she somehow knows how far that kind gesture has traveled.
First, I understand how many of you might think, “Here she goes again. Taking a simple question and turning it inside out.”
But this question troubles me. I fully understand the spirit of the question. Would I warn myself about a harmful decision or a bad habit?
My answer is still “No.”
To modify your past would change your “now “and future. [FULL STOP]
We can’t be sure if the change would be ‘for the better’ or not, but things would definitely be changed. Every mistake you’ve made to get where you are today was impactful in getting you here. (Even what we think is “little” can’t be counted on to be ‘little’ in a long-term effect on your life journey. – Look up The Butterfly Effect for more information. – )
I also wouldn’t consider messing with the natural order of things ‘as they are’ especially because I’m quite happy with my life. The whole bundle of what has happened before brought me here. I wouldn’t be the “today’s me” if I hadn’t had boatloads of trials, mistakes, and troubles, that (I hope) I learned from. I also suspect that having had a crystal ball helping me to avoid all those ‘happenings’ would have opened me up to worse pain. I have noticed that many kids who have been protected from early consequences of their bad actions, and decisions, frequently pay far bigger prices later on. I think life works just about the same way.
IMHO…Woulda, shoulda, coulda isn’t a healthy place to dwell, either.
This is a great question. I’ve found that each of us bring our own mindsets into everything we do. No one is without pre-decided biases, but many seem to believe that they can operate ‘bias-free’. Those people are just lying to themselves. Like viewing art, people see what they see through their own hearts and minds. That’s fine. Appreciating quotes is the same for some. BUT… if the creator of a quote is well known that author’s meaning is easier to decipher. There’s an undeniable ‘flavor’ to the person’s intended meaning. If I am presenting a quote, who said it is the heaviest part. The author of any quote carries far more clout for me than the words dangling without context. I don’t care to ‘dream up’ meaning when there’s truth to be discovered. Like catchy headlines absorbed alone, there’s little truth or meaning without knowing what/who inspired them.
Yes. I do like using emojis but, like commas, I use them far, too, often. LOL Even ‘good things’ can be overdone. They, like words, don’t translate to people in the exact same way. In the hyper-sensitive culture that created the concept of ‘hate speech’ (which has a fluid definition and is realistically just a tool to prevent speech), there’s no wonder that some people would find them childish or condescending. To those people I say, “Tough”. I’m responsible for my intentions not your reaction. 🙂 😀 ❤ 😉
Since so many other online writers have blogs dedicated to their writings, I’ve decided to jump onto the bandwagon. All posts published here will be either fiction or poetry, some new, and some previously published on various places on the Internet. Some of my works are conventional, and some are quirky. All fiction posted here, except for fan fiction, will include the letters "rose" somewhere, as a tribute to my Baba.