Family Life ~ Big Sister

  My granddaughter Katherine knows she’ll become a big sister right after her 7th birthday this September. Just last week, she found out that her new sibling will be a sister. This has all been exciting.

At 6 1/2, Katherine has been able to wrap her head around the idea and consider it more than if she were younger.

Last evening, she had a sensitive moment while contemplating the prospect of sharing her mother’s heart with anyone else. It was the first time that the BIG SISTER role was not entirely appealing to her. Luckily, Katherine shares her feelings freely. Her mother (my daughter) was able to discuss how there is plenty of room in all of our hearts for both girls.

Today Kat was as cheerful as ever. I had been too young to consider all those feelings when I became a big sister many years ago. So glad that Kat could share her emotions. Certainly, we all will be aware of those feelings when little Evelyn comes to town.

It is sure to be life changing for us all!

Halloween Memories

I have always loved Halloween!

The smell of damp leaves comes to mind, as well as, candle scorched pumpkin “meat”.

We roamed our neighborhood, after dark, passing one hundred  kids doing the same. As we grew older, and went farther, we carried pillowcases to fill with treats. The homemade treats were wonderful!  Candied apples a favorite. One neighbor served cinnamon doughnuts and apple cider.

A breeze was common,  animating our capes and fancy dresses as the dry leaves danced along beside us. Once in a while, they’d lift in a tornado-like whirlpool.

Most of our costumes were homemade, with a few store-bought props. Pirates, ghosts and princesses were very popular. When guessing the kids behind the masks, it was easy if you knew the family sizes and ages. Each group could be identified by their “relative” heights.

The evening was far from over upon the return home! There was much sorting and trading to do. All the Fifth Avenues were for Dad. I got the Three Musketeers!

There was one candy hoarder in every family! My brother held on to his longer in order to dangle them in front of his sisters who had been extra generous and sugar hungry. Makes me laugh to think he had candy until Christmas…our stockings made the “treat hoarding” game moot.

Yes, I think Halloween was my favorite holiday as a kid!

Uniquely Our Own

Cousins

On this last day of 2010, I wanted to leave a profound message. Profound messages don’t just pop up when you need them.

Then I decided that I must add this adorable photo that I took of my granddaughter and her younger cousin. As I was studying the photo, my mind rambled to wishes that Katherine would one day enjoy a sister. (seems we just cannot help wanting good things from our lives for others.) The fact is more likely that Kat may remain an only child. Besides, I’ve heard of sisters who caused nothing but heartache for each other.

Well, Maddie and Kat are cousins who spend every day at my house and will attend the same school etc. seems Kat already has a sister. I know that they argue like sisters 🙂

Just yesterday I said to a 12 year old day care friend of mine,”That has GOT to be rough!”

She said “What?”

“You know, getting up and going out to day care even as an infant. I got to stay in bed each morning until I went to school. You guys have to get up for “work” .”

She looked at me like I had two heads. “No big deal.”

BAM! Now I get it. Every single life is unique and whatever the experiences, they belong solely to that person. Our good wishes for others to have similar special experiences are kind but usually blind.. “What’s good for the goose is not likely good for the gander.”

AH HA!

My profound message to you for the coming year is: Live, Laugh, Love and appreciate your own unique lives!

Happy New Year to all!

Sisters

For My Little Sister, Donna.

The little one said,

“You are so colorful and cast the larger shadow.”

The big one replied,

We are made of the same elements and you chose a different path.”

“You are always busy, filled with life.”

“You are content in keeping your feelings facing away.”

It pleases me to be the observer, I like to watch.”

You are my balance, my friend and companion.”

I know you’ll always be near.”

I could not exist but for your support.”

Then the Earth smiled at the Moon.