Something I wanted to Note

I just glanced around my kitchen and spotted gifts that my granddaughters picked out for me at Christmas. Since my blog’s foremost purpose is to document my thoughts for those precious girls, I needed to make this special note.
Each of them chose their gift separately and at different times. Katherine had found hers during an Autumn family vacation and Evelyn bought hers at the school holiday gift buying event.
Both are display items sporting the word “blessed”.
I’m so proud that each knew the importance of that term and attributed it to me. ❤
That tells me that I’ve inspired them toward hopefulness and gratitude.
Today, I was humbled and warmed to reflect on those special gifts!

Blogtober- Christmas Shopping- Day 3

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There are two types of Christmas shoppers who I’ve observed.
Those who shop to put a check mark beside each name on their list and those who enjoy the challenge of finding the ‘perfect’ gifts.
The check mark types, go out, or devote an online day or two, to their endeavors. They can ‘happen on’ a great gift or sale item but their mission is to be ‘ready’ for Christmas. This type of person doesn’t get weighed down by stress but doesn’t usually experience the full ‘magic’ of Christmas. Handmade gifts rarely come from these shoppers and, giving a handmade gift to them, never gets a whole appreciation either.
The shoppers, who put the most thought into gifting, are easy to spot. They seem tired but joyful. They’re the ones who are primarily bustling around on the last days before the holiday. These shoppers don’t always ‘score’ on every well-thought present but they can never be shamed for not giving it their ‘all’. I think of them as loving gardeners. Planting seeds with high hopes but knowing not every ‘seed’ will bear ‘fruit’. The loving investment makes the success stories grand and fulfilling. The anticipation is its own reward.
So which are you?



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Dear Santa…What I want for Christmas.

Dear Santa,

What I want for Christmas has great value and very little cost…

1. I want everyone who cares about me to show an interest in my health, happiness and hopes.

2. I want my kids to resist temptations and honor me by making their own way…I am here if you need me.

3. I want my husband to be my companion and friend.

4. I want my parents to know how much I love them and how fortunate I am to still have them in my life.

5.I want my sister to be happy…I’ll do ANYTHING for her.

6. I want to offer anyone who has lost a loved one, this year, a hug so they know they are loved and it will get easier.

7.I want Dress’N’Dazzle! LOL!  An inside family joke  🙂

8. I want people who take advantage of my generosity not to worry, you cannot change me and being generous makes me happy.

9. I want all my true friends to know that I know who they are ❤

10. I want most of all  a New Year without the fear of criticism from those I trust with my heart.

A kind word

There’s no substitute for the feeling one gets from being generous. Even though it is hard for little kids to share, they catch on to that feeling. We want kids to develop this generous nature but I do not think we should reward them with gifts.  I award my day care friends with a kind word and a hug. By giving kids rewards of tangible objects, we are sending the message that they get some thing for all their kindness. Isn’t what we want them to learn that kindness is its own reward?

I’ve had fun through the years training my pet dogs. I am no expert but I have read and studied about dog training. At the risk of sounding weird, I think toddler training and puppy training are very similar. I’ve noticed that the commands that I use are the same. Sit,stay,wait,come,good boy, are applicable to kids.

Kids and dogs both want the same thing. Positive attention is their favorite reward. They just really want to please their care giver more than anything.

My Jack Russell Terrier can be a stubborn little cus. I’ll let him out,once in awhile, in the middle of one of these balmy nights to do his business. I can tell he would prefer to linger. On occasion, I have lost my cool and growled at him to hurry up! I finally found the key. I start praising him in a gentle voice. “Come on my good boy.” “That’s MY good boy”. Works every time. I follow it with a few warm pats. (offering him a piece of ham never worked.) The essence is to make him want to come in. I use our friendship as the prize and he deems that a great trade.

My favorite prize for my children is a comment, “You made me smile!” or “I can tell that that made you feel good. Way to go!” A kind word and a hug  is a very powerful tool when it is sincere. Certainly, it is rewarding to all!

My Favorite Cliché

No “backsies” !

“Beware of Greeks bearing gifts.”

The idea of gift giving came up among my kids this morning. It does not fit my cliché, exactly, but gift giving/receiving has its bugaboos.

Yesterday, my granddaughter had shared each of her four stickers that she received for bravery during those nasty school booster shots. One of the recipients of this act of generosity had accidentally sent his sticker through the wash. I offered him my sticker.

“No,that’s YOURS.” Katherine said.

“Yes, I love it that you shared it with me. It made me so happy.” I replied.

“You can’t give it to him!”

“When you gave it to me it became mine, Katherine. Now I’d love to use it to make someone else feel happy. Once you give someone special a gift, it is so important to trust that what they use it for gives them pleasure. It does not mean that it was not loved by them.”

“OK, then.” She smiled and walked away.

My daughter and I recently had an interesting discussion. I am an absolute “no strings” person. She feels the gift is a “piece of her” not to be used for anything but what she intended.

Both feelings are absolutely valid, but this divide can cause such hurt feelings among those who do not share the same philosophy.

Once I realise that the bearer of a gift has “heart-strings” attached, I try to be mindful of it.

It is difficult when you are a “no strings” kind. I am disappointed when I realise the recipient, of one my gifts, does not take an opportunity to pass it on for fear of MY feelings. It would please me, for sure, to have the same gift providing further “giving/receiving” pleasures, and so on…

It is important to realise that both philosophies exist…which are you?

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