I wouldn’t give my younger self advice.
First, I understand how many of you might think, “Here she goes again. Taking a simple question and turning it inside out.”
But this question troubles me. I fully understand the spirit of the question.
Would I warn myself about a harmful decision or a bad habit?
My answer is still “No.”
To modify your past would change your “now “and future. [FULL STOP]
We can’t be sure if the change would be ‘for the better’ or not, but things would definitely be changed. Every mistake you’ve made to get where you are today was impactful in getting you here. (Even what we think is “little” can’t be counted on to be ‘little’ in a long-term effect on your life journey. – Look up The Butterfly Effect for more information. – )
I also wouldn’t consider messing with the natural order of things ‘as they are’ especially because I’m quite happy with my life.
The whole bundle of what has happened before brought me here. I wouldn’t be the “today’s me” if I hadn’t had boatloads of trials, mistakes, and troubles, that (I hope) I learned from. I also suspect that having had a crystal ball helping me to avoid all those ‘happenings’ would have opened me up to worse pain. I have noticed that many kids who have been protected from early consequences of their bad actions, and decisions, frequently pay far bigger prices later on.
I think life works just about the same way.
IMHO…Woulda, shoulda, coulda isn’t a healthy place to dwell, either.
7 thoughts on “Sunday Poser #115- Nope”
This is a good way of looking at things, Susan! I hadn’t given your point of view much thought, but now that I do, I think it makes perfect sense!
I’m pleased, Carol! I’m afraid I may have put a monkey wrench in the enjoyment of the question for others, but that’s my opinion and I’m sticky with it. ❤
I’m always wary of these types of questions… anything I change might end up not giving me my two wonderful daughters, so I’ll take all the yuck of the past to end up right here, yet again!
Cheers! I’m with you!
Very good attitude Susan.