Family Love

When a marriage brings two people together, it brings two family philosophies together as well. The man and wife are drawn to each other but they just may have different ideas about life, love and parenting that can place a strain on their relationship.

At first, love is physical…life is forever…dreams are shared.

Then, they fall into expectations they have from a personal journey that each partner has taken without the other. The growing up in another household. The couple comes to realize that their dreams and expectations are grounded in that separate upbringing.

The sharing of love, hopes for happiness and family unity are defined differently in many nuclear families and can be a real obstacle to a “happily ever after” scenario in the brand new family made in marriage.

Recognizing the differences is the first step.

Hopefully the next step is accepting the differences as different. It is all too easy to feel they are wrong and right.

Overall, each partner needs to accept yet retain their separateness. People have signals that require definition to each other or misinterpretations are inevitable.

Being a family is not easy…combining phylosophies, religion, values, and dreams can be really tricky. It takes much effort and a lot of unconditional love and two people who support each other equally. Good luck to everyone!

3 thoughts on “Family Love

  1. Joan Marion 01/18/2012 / 4:16 pm

    Nice one and so true-Growing up you think all families are like ours so we don’t really see these adjustments that we have to be made. Secretly then though we probably think our spouse had a strange family-ours was perfectly normal!

  2. charlesmashburn 01/18/2012 / 6:21 pm

    Excellent post, Susan! You hit the nail on the head when you included the term “unconditional love”. Unfortunately, in this day and age, that is typically a foreign idea. But! We have to keep encouraging people to try it!

    I don’t know if you’ve been following my story, but here’s the latest segment, if you’re interested:

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