We Need Each Other…

There are many jokes about the many ways  by which men and women misunderstand each other. They are ALL funny because they are mostly true.

If we avoid anecdotes pertaining to individuals in our lives and concentrate on what seems to be really basic differences, the discussion can be quite interesting.

As an student of human behavior with many years of observations of young children, I think the most striking difference in the sexes is how we deal with frustration.

Boys most often blame forces outside of themselves before blaming themselves. Girls are much more likely to react in the exact opposite manner. If you believe that this is true, it’s no wonder how women are often emotionally misused by their spouses. Women accept blame and Men tend to blame.

Seems so simple but I believe if we consider the natural role of the sexes, men=providers/women=caregivers, there is good reason for the contrast.

First, anyone who thinks human beings can be type-cast entirely is naive.

Second, if you are not willing to believe that we evolved from and are a specialized kind of animal, you need not read further.

Third, these observations are just that, and not intended to favor one sex over the other. In fact, this whole piece is intended for us to understand and accept that we are different yet equal.

As hunters and providers, males would be less effective if their nature was to wallow in self-doubt. Being headstrong and confident are the best qualities for hunters/protectors/providers. Women, as caregivers, would be less effective if they were unable to empathize and use  emotionalism in their strategies. Tending to others requires a sensitivity and willingness to sacrifice their own comfort more readily.

Bottom line men and women, need each other. Their roles are not as clear cut in our modern times. I believe the striking differences in our basic philosophies are fading too.

Laugh we must, as our roles redefine themselves through further evolution!